The talking stage that blurry space between “just met” and “we’re official” can be exciting, confusing, and sometimes frustrating.
It’s the period where you’re getting to know someone, trying to see if there’s real potential, but without clear labels yet.
How you handle this stage can make or break what comes next.
Here’s a guide on what to do and what to avoid during this delicate phase.
The Do’s
1. Be Yourself
It’s tempting to act a certain way to impress the other person, but authenticity always wins.
Let them see the real you your quirks, values, and vibe.
Pretending only creates false expectations later.
2. Communicate Clearly
Ask questions, listen genuinely, and express your thoughts.
Clear communication helps you understand each other’s intentions early on and avoid confusion down the road.
3. Set Boundaries
Don’t be afraid to define what you’re comfortable with emotionally, physically, and in terms of time and energy.
Boundaries keep things healthy and prevent emotional burnout.
4. Take Your Time
There’s no need to rush. The talking stage is meant to help you observe, learn, and evaluate.
Enjoy the process of discovery before making big decisions.
5. Observe Actions, Not Just Words
People can say all the right things but act differently.
Pay attention to consistency how they treat you, how they handle disagreements, and if they keep their word.
The Don’ts
1. Don’t Assume You’re Exclusive
Until there’s a mutual agreement, don’t assume exclusivity.
Save yourself unnecessary heartbreak by clarifying where you both stand instead of assuming.
2. Don’t Overshare Too Soon
Yes, vulnerability builds connection but too much, too early can create pressure or awkwardness.
Pace yourself and share gradually.
3. Don’t Play Games
Ignoring texts to seem “unbothered” or pretending to be less interested rarely ends well.
Genuine effort and honesty go further than manipulation.
4. Don’t Rush to Label It
Trying to force a relationship too early can backfire.
Let things grow naturally; if it’s meant to evolve, it will with time and mutual interest.
5. Don’t Lose Yourself in the Process
It’s easy to get carried away and make the other person your whole focus.
Keep your routine, friendships, and self-care intact.
The best relationships come when you’re whole, not when you’re desperate for connection.
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